tips

• write a list of why you shouldn't be together/all the things you didn't like about that person
• focus on being excited about the future
• focus on yourself - self love, mental health, etc.
• focus on other relationships - friends, family, etc.
• create a happiness folder
• do the things that person would have hated but you love
• write things to yourself in an objective way. think if your friend was in that relationship what would you tell them or even think, if your ex was a character in a movie, would you like them?
• even if you did love everything about them and they chose to end it, you dont want to be with someone who doesn't choose you. you deserve to be with someone who loves you and has no doubt they want to be with you.
• focus on what you're grateful for
• things can come in waves. let yourself have those moments and not let it trick you into thinking you haven’t made progress

helpful videos

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0GQSJrpVhM&list=PLUMrxtVCiVRLJdP3v8flZR5-511WOFYDx&index=2&t=42s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kFKXSS8vlGA&list=PLUMrxtVCiVRLJdP3v8flZR5-511WOFYDx&index=1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ISXhUfWCF_Q&list=PLUMrxtVCiVRLJdP3v8flZR5-511WOFYDx&index=3

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fAjpY5ugF94&list=PLUMrxtVCiVRLJdP3v8flZR5-511WOFYDx&index=4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTomM5fOqCA&list=PLUMrxtVCiVRLJdP3v8flZR5-511WOFYDx&index=5

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Jo1rSII6vU&list=PLUMrxtVCiVRLJdP3v8flZR5-511WOFYDx&index=8

quotes

short-term uncomfortability for long-term peace

rejection is not as personal as it feels. liking someone or being liked is more about compatibility than inherent worth.

when someone shows you who they are, believe them.

no amount of anxiety can change the future. no amount of regret can change the past. this moment is all that really exists

stop choosing what isn't choosing you. if it's not mutual, why pursue it?

stop being shocked by repeated behaviour. notice patterns and believe them.

the best revenge is no revenge. move on. be happy.

when sweet memories turn into bitter reminders, take it as a sign that it's time to let go of what once was. there's a reason you're no longer there and that's okay

never beg someone to be in your life. if your love and emotions get ignored, walk away. you're worth more than you think. be with someone who is proud of you. someone who knows your worth. someone who's there through thick and thin, with no regrets. because that's what you deserve, that's what your heart desires, that's what your life needs. never forget your worth.

never let your fear decide your future.

at your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. at your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person.

you must learn to trust that there is a future waiting for you that is beyond what you might be able to grasp at this present moment

don't chase, attract. what is yours will find you

your time, energy, and loyalty are too precious. don't waste it on people who take you for granted.

if someone can walk away from you. let them walk. better people will come.

the best views come after the hardest climbs

reminders

• you are stronger than you think
• if they were the one, you wouldn’t have to worry about a thing
• DON'T SETTLE
• don't let fear control your life
• you’ll find someone who makes you feel like the shining star in the universe
• it’s exciting to find someone who you truly love everything about, and who loves everything about you
• you can’t force someone to see your worth/love you
• this isn’t a loss, you’re gaining your self worth again. and you no longer have to worry about them hurting you. and in the future you will gain even more happiness with the RIGHT person
• you should be with someone who makes you feel safe, loved, happy & at peace
• focus on their actions. not their words.
• guard your heart. let them go.
• you deserved to be loved for who you are
• you are strong
• you are beautiful
• you are worthy